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The Elephant in the Living Room

I recently worked with a family who had a “big white elephant sitting in their living room”. The husband was an alcoholic and his wife was covering up the problem by making excuses for him. The children knew there was a problem, but knew that they were not allowed to talk about it openly because it would make Dad mad …

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All About Balance

Life is all about balance and moderation. A personal life coach helps clients find that balance. A healthy individual should always take into account his or her environment, which includes coworkers, friends, and family. In today’s world I typically see two types of clients who haven’t found this balance. There are a lot of needy people who put themselves first …

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Don’t Give It So Much Power

Are you a survivor or a victim? Do you fall prey to the things that happen to you or do you put them in perspective and ask what you can learn from the unfortunate circumstance? Do you often feel devastated by the cards that are dealt to you, or do you gather your bearings and ask yourself, ‘what do I …

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Dealing With Alcoholism

Sometimes clients will come in to that first appointment wanting strategies to assist another family member with their problems especially when addiction is involved. I remember a client of mine, Rod, who was a father of four. He came to my office because his wife had been “getting drunk a lot” and he could no longer tolerate her drinking binges. …

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Assertiveness

Last week, you learned that there are certain basic rights that help to define and shape your sense of self. Utilizing these basic rights increases confidence, enhances self-esteem, and allows you to focus on values important to you. Today you will learn the difference between the human right called assertiveness and three other forms of behavior that aren’t proactive or …

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Do You Make Them Feel Important?

I am frequently asked what life skills are the most important in helping a client become successful in life. I could never narrow it down to just one life skill, but I do believe if a client utilizes at least four of the life skills listed below, this will consistently ensure them great success. • Life Skill #1—Character Strengths. Knowing …

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Shopaholism

I recently did a TV segment on overspending and brought with me a client who had over $200,000 of debt. Although she worked full-time and made a decent living, she had accumulated, in a ten-year period, approximately $200,000 worth of credit card debt due to compulsive spending. Her family had little knowledge of her exorbitant spending, although her husband was …

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Your Basic Human Rights

To improve your self-esteem requires learning effective ways of identifying your needs and asserting your personal sense of self. Many people are unable to identify what they want for their lives. Consequently they have difficulty expressing needs to their friends, family, partner, or c-workers. If a client appears confused and directionless, I ask them to identify what they consider to …

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Workaholism

Are you a workaholic? Do you spend endless hours at work attending to the infinite responsibilities with the general sense that there is more to do than time allows? You may be one of those employees that can’t turn your thoughts off as you leave for the day; consequently, you are never really “present” when you return home, go to …

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Encouragement: The Most Important Life Skill

Clients typically ask if there are small changes that they can make that can create an immediate difference in the relationships with their spouses, children, or co-workers. Professionally, I believe that there are three life skills that are inherent in making life more meaningful. The number one life skill that will immediately make a change in your relationships is the …

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