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Monthly Archive for: ‘September, 2011’

Do Overs

When human being make lots of mistakes, it’s inevitable that there will be many times in our lives when we say or do the wrong thing. Sometimes the errors in judgment are small; other times, they have devastating effects on others. It’s important to know when to set boundaries so that someone doesn’t repeatedly hurt you and when to give …

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Infidelity

There are all types of infidelity within relationships. People seem to judge it by the degree in which it occurs. This column is devoted to how to avoid the pitfalls of infidelity. It involves changing distorted thinking and setting appropriate boundaries. Anyone who has considered infidelity needs to examine their thought processes, followed by their boundaries. You will need to …

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Are You Co-Dependent?

Are you a person who needs the validation of others to feel good about yourself? Are you so preoccupied with others that your own sense of self depends on how your children, husband, or wife is doing? If so, you probably suffer from a condition called co-dependency. Charles Whitfield, M.D. defines co-dependency as a condition in which you turn over …

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The Giver

If I had to characterize one personality type that has the most difficulty changing, it would be “the giver”. The giver is a person who spends his or her life doing for others. They consistently put their needs on the back burner and take care of all of those that come before them. Invariably, they hook up with spouses, children, …

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Creating Positive Thought

People take their minds for granted. They don’t see it as a resource. Your perception of your life is based on how you feel and what you think. You have the power to move yourself in any direction when it comes to your perceptions. The world is your canvas and you get to decide the interpretation of your own painting. …

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The Power Struggle of Marriage

If you are married or have been married, then you know that marriage can be extremely tough. It is a juggling act of balancing your needs within the needs of your relationship. It’s that constant tug and pull of blending what you want individually with balancing the needs of your partner. As if that wasn’t tough enough, add into the …

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Changes In Our Society

Changes in society can be stressful. Below are a few tips to combat the changes that are occurring in today’s world. How many of these changes may be affecting you? IN FAMILIES: Family values have changed. Clearly, more parents are choosing to stay home with their children during their formative years. One would think this would simplify life, but it …

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Boundaries to Better Mental Health

It is human nature to want to change other people. Clients frequently come in seeking advice about how to get another person to change. They either complain that their loved one’s behavior has changed for the worse or that they had hoped their behavior WOULD change and it has not. The naïve part of them believed that they could get …

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