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Monthly Archive for: ‘November, 2011’

When We Play, We Find Our Way

For many of adults, play is like sex. It requires that you schedule it into your routine. Life can be so busy, with so much activity scheduled into an average day that playing (like sex) can get put on the back burner and never carried out. I work with lots of clients who do not regularly participate in play. When …

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The Love Avoident Personality

Are you in love with a person who is love avoidant? It is not unusual to work with clients who report that there is a chronic distance in their relationship, which leaves them feeling empty, angry and hopeless about their marriage. Upon investigation, it appears that the client reporting the concern was initially “swept away” by the person. They admit …

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Healthy Relationships

Healthy relationships don’t just happen. They require that you constantly invest your time, energy and effort into them, just as a bountiful garden requires that you till the soil, pull the weeds, water, and fertilize with proper nutrients. People often take their relationships for granted—until a problem occurs or until it’s too late. As you look at your relationships, do …

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Parenting: Doing Less

It is difficult to raise a family in today’s society. There is so much emphasis in providing the right opportunities and affording the right things. It can be mind-boggling to know when you might be doing too much for your child. You are doing too much if: • You can’t afford the activities your child is involved in. • You …

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Enabling: When You Help, You Hurt

Often times in counseling, I work with well-meaning clients who find themselves consumed with another person. Maybe their spouse is severely depressed and not participating in the family. Sometimes it’s a parent whose child has severe emotional and behavioral problems; the child is frequently engaged in scuffles with the law, school, or peers. When a loved one cares so much …

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Feeding Your Self-Esteem

In about 70% of the clients I see, they voice that they would like to improve their self-esteem. They report that they don’t like themselves and they have trouble identifying what is unique or special about them. Since my entire career has revolved around the study of people, I can easily understand how difficult it is for my clients to …

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Good Parenting Equals the Three Cs

Parents will often ask what tips I can provide that can make a difference in their children’s lives. I tell them that there are three life skills that will promote good parenting. As most parents can guess, consistency is the most important factor in getting a child to comply to your wishes. If you ask them to do something and …

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Spirituality

Life can be scary. There are lots of variables out there that directly interfere with our sense of serenity. Many people are unemployed or underemployed as a result of the present economy. For the first time in history, college graduates are unable to find entry-level positions in their fields. We live in a disposable society. Couples don’t work through the …

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