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Monthly Archive for: ‘January, 2012’

Divorce

Divorce is ugly—no matter what the circumstances. Children are the greatest causalities of divorce. Typically, they have little choice when it comes to the aftermath. You have the power to diminish the pain for yourself, but it is even more important to diminish your child’s pain. I have seen the trauma divorce causes children. Therefore, I have high expectations for …

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The Illusionist

People view the world based on how they see themselves and what they want in their lives. It is not uncommon to work with clients who have a distorted sense of reality. They often have illusionists in their life. Illusionists are people who create the illusion of something that isn’t there. Many clients have difficulty coping because they are dealing …

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The Lost Child

Do you have a child who just don’t turn out the way you had hoped? Does your child fail to accomplish the goals that you know he or she is capable of, and for the life of you, you just can’t figure out where you went wrong? Most likely you have examined your life and you know you weren’t perfect, …

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Strategies of Parenting

When providing therapy it is common to see patterns, especially within families. More and more, I am seeing two types of kids in my practice. There are kids who make mistakes, experience natural and logical consequences of their actions, and make better choices. Those kids are easy to deal with from a parenting standpoint, because they seem to learn from …

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Brief Strategic Therapy

Many of you have written asking me about the specifics of therapy. There has been a real shift in the ground rules for therapy in the last ten years. Most clients no longer have the luxury of going into therapy and spending months, or possibly years, talking about their issues or problems, as in the past. Therapy has become brief …

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Your Investment as a Parent

Parents have the awesome responsibility of teaching values and personal life skills to their children. Instilling the right values in your child comes from three daily investments: • Role modeling. • Family time • Good communication. Role Modeling: As a parent it is your job to model healthy behavior. Children learn what they live. You are the best teacher for …

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The Reality Check

Whether people come to therapy or come for personal life coaching, they usually feel stuck. They desperately want to change something, but they report they don’t know how to make their lives different. As they discuss the scenario, I typically note a common denominator that keeps them stuck in their unpleasant situation. Most people who want to change are caught …

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