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Food Addiction and Gentle Eating

Now that it’s February and you have had at least six weeks to work on your goals, how are they working for you? Research shows that the number one New Year’s resolution is weight loss. That’s understandable when you think that this country has a 64% obesity rate. Are you one of those people who wake up thinking about what …

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Fake It Til’ You Make It

If there is one thing I have learned in my 25 years of therapy, it is that clients bring to the office everything they need to change a situation. I always tell my clients that they have “all the answers.” Most of the time, I am a conduit for opening the door to the inherent wisdom they possess. I believe …

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Defense Mechanisms

Many times human behavior cam be explained if we look at coping mechanisms. People use defense mechanisms to guide and direct them. When used excessively, it creates faulty thinking. Defense mechanisms help you cope with adversity. They are typically developed to protect you, but when they are used to the extreme, they create distorted thinking. The most common defense mechanisms …

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Restructuring Your Position

I had a young couple who came to see me for marital counseling. The husband owned his own company and the wife had a Masters Degree in business, but had chosen to stay home and raise their two sons. The couple wanted help with reviving their marriage because there seemed to be too much emotional separateness. In actuality, the husband …

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The Past Can Be the Best Teacher

Do you have regrets? I recently met with a woman who felt that her depression robbed her of her choices. She had an administrative position, but would have preferred helping people on the front lines. She felt that her depression had kept her from making the career choice to deal with people. She wondered if, in her late 50s, she …

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Keeping Valentine’s Day Real

Are you one of the millions of readers who had a disappointing Valentine’s Day? Maybe you didn’t have a date and you mildly reflected on the scores of happy couples who did. Perhaps you had a date, but found that it lacke zest and passion. Well the reality of the situation is that millions of people will be disappointed with …

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Creating Closeness

Do you wish there was more intimacy in your relationship? Would you like your spouse to cuddle up, be more affectionate or talk to you about feelings? When I talk to clients about their relationships, they report a change from great initial romance to no romance at all. IN THE BEGINNING: Couples spend hours talking over the phone or in …

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The Chicken or the Egg

If you suffer from low self-esteem, I would like you to ask yourself the following: Is my negative thinking and pessimism contributing to my low self-esteem, or is my low self-esteem causing my negative and pessimistic attitude? Regardless, it’s absolutely critical that someone with low self-esteem retrain their faulty thinking .Let me give you some examples of two very different …

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