Archives

Monthly Archive for: ‘April, 2012’

Jealousy

Jealousy can be toxic to a relationship. I meet with many clients who regularly fight this demon. If you experience extreme jealousy it will require professional attention. I recently met with a very insecure middle-aged woman who wanted help for her jealous tendencies. Her boyfriend, who “treated her like gold”, was beginning to tire of her constant badgering when he …

Read More

The Four Ingredients in a Healthy Marriage

I am frequently asked what type of work I find to be the toughest. Since I am blessed to be both a psychotherapist and a personal life coach (PLC), I have no problem answering that question. Undoubtedly, personal life coaching is the easiest and marital counseling is the toughest. When a person seeks out a PLC they are typically motivated …

Read More

How Will You Change?

Is there something that you want to change in your life, yet you continue to hedge back and forth, wondering if you’re strong enough to make that needed lifestyle change? If you are ambivalent and not truly committed to changing your life, don’t waste your time or energy stuck in your own ambivalence. The odds are definitely against you. Most …

Read More

Sadness

It is normal to struggle with the painful feelings that life evokes. Feelings are normal, natural and necessary byproducts of living a life full of experience. There are five primary feelings–anger, sadness, happiness, loneliness and fear. All are other feelings fall under the umbrella of these very important ones. Today’s column is devoted to sadness. Sadness can be uncomfortable. When …

Read More

Controlling People

As a Personal Life Coach, I encourage people to take charge of their life and yet not do everything by themselves. Their response is typically “I’m a control freak so I have to do everything myself to know that it will be done right!” Well being a “control freak” is not healthy. Controlling personalities are hyper vigilant and not fun …

Read More

Overcontrol

As a Personal Life Coach, I encourage people to take charge of their life and yet not do everything by themselves. Their response is typically “I’m a control freak so I have to do everything myself to know that it will be done right!” Well being a “control freak” is not healthy. Controlling personalities are hyper vigilant and not fun …

Read More

Perfection

Are your expectations of yourself and others unrealistic? Are you consumed with everything in your life being absolutely perfect? Do you typically feel stress because you micromanage yourself and the lives of others for the sake of perfection? People who strive for perfection are overachievers. Their life does not feel in sync unless their all their “ducks are in a …

Read More

Toxic Relationships

Is there a relationship in your life that you would consider toxic? Toxic relationships are volatile, angry and abusive. They hurt you and typically are so unpredictable that they leave you feeling as if you did something wrong. Many of my clients who are in a toxic relationship come in feeling as if they had just finished emotional combat. They …

Read More

The Narcissistic Personality Disorder

I recently met with a woman who came in to discuss techniques she could use to improve her relationship with her boss. She described him as a cool, aloof, unavailable and angry man who she had difficulty dealing with. She explained that he ranted and raved when things did not go his way and that everything needed to revolve around …

Read More

Conflict is Natural

Last week, we talked about working on developing a healthy relationship with your spouse. Today, you will learn some tools that will help you when there is conflict in your relationship. Conflict is normal and actually, conflict breeds intimacy. When you and your spouse are in disagreement it is important to encourage the conflict and healthy resolution. Here are some …

Read More
Page 1 of 612345»...Last »