Are You In Sync with Your Values?
Living your life to the fullest requires that you take a good hard look at what you want from life. This can be a difficult process, as it entails making choices that are based on your passions and your values. I am not a coach who believes that people can “have it all”. In many ways, I think we have promoted a lifestyle where adults try to obtain this elusive goal and then they try to create it for their children. This has resulted in multiple marriages, “sky-high credit cards”, children who have a sense of entitlement, and a general sense of, “if I want it, I should have it” mentality.
Values need to be congruent with those qualities that you believe to be important to mankind. In other words, those values need to make the world a better place. If you work from a value-based hierarchy you will create energy that assists you in maximizing your potential. Some examples of intrinsic values that perpetuate that kind of energy include:
What are your values? And more importantly, what values do you promote in your life? Write them down in the order of what importance they have. Be honest. Don’t write them down in the order you feel they should be in your life. Instead, write them down in the order in which they fall in your current life with others. For example, many people put spirituality or God at the top of their value list, but when they get honest, they admit that many of their decisions are not God-based. This can be a wake-up call to help you figure out ways to put God back into your decision-making process.
Another example is honesty. You may be a person who stresses honesty and yet if you were to examine your own life, how honest is it…really? Do you lie by omission? Do you cheat your employer because you are underpaid? Do you fib on your taxes because the government gets too much money anyway? Did you charge that big purchase knowing you were heading to the bankruptcy attorney on Monday?
Getting the most out of life requires that you put lots of healthy energy into it. You don’t have to be perfect, but you do have to like who you are and strive for integrity. When you are internally balanced, things start to happen and you can begin to formulate the external variables to make your life happen.
Start writing, and think hard about that list. Think of ways to create a healthy, value-based life. Make sure the goal does not conflict with your values. If for example you value spending time with your family, but your job or promotion would take you away from your children’s sports activities, you may need to negotiate a different schedule with your employer. If this isn’t possible, you may have to turn down the promotion and have faith that another opportunity will arise because you did the right thing.
When you do the right thing the right things happen, but not necessarily on our schedule. Try it and see.