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Conflict is Natural

Last week, we talked about working on developing a healthy relationship with your spouse. Today, you will learn some tools that will help you when there is conflict in your relationship. Conflict is normal and actually, conflict breeds intimacy. When you and your spouse are in disagreement it is important to encourage the conflict and healthy resolution. Here are some …

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Don’t Sweat Conflict

Many of my clients fear conflict. They are angry about something or someone, but they fear telling the other person. They do a great job of sharing their feelings with me, but when I advise them to deal directly with the other person, they assure me they don’t feel capable or confident of doing it. There is no doubt that …

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Conflict Feels Scary

For the column of January 18, 2004 Have you ever been in a situation when you angered or disappointed someone and they refused to work out the conflict? They may have been aloof and avoided you or shared their reasons for their feelings with others but not with you. Conflict feels scary. Most people have had no formal training in …

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Assertiveness – Developing a Backbone

I work with people from all types of backgrounds and lifestyles, and I consistently see one commonality, especially among women. Women come into the office and lack the ability to assert themselves with others. Most women don’t know what assertiveness is, let alone know how to do it. And, if they do know how to do it, it is because …

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Formula for Conflict

Most people are uncomfortable dealing with conflict. They have a tendency to avoid it for fear of being hurt or hurting others. Unless you have lots of experience in dealing with conflict, your first reaction is fight or flight. How do you handle conflict? You were likely not taught specific techniques that would help you identify and work through it. …

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The Protective Coating of Teflon

As you may remember from previous columns, there are three life skills that are essential to good self-esteem and relationship building: Knowing your own character strengths Encouragement of others Conflict resolution You previously learned that handling conflict is a skill that is difficult for most folks as it can cause uncomfortable feelings. When someone is angry with you it is …

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The Art of Dealing with Conflict Without the Criticism

Conflict in a relationship can be scary because anger and criticism are typically at the root of conflict and most of us have not had formal training in how to resolve it. Our parents did not teach us to handle conflict appropriately. Instead, we were taught what not to do if we felt angry, e.g. don’t say bad words, don’t …

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