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Replenishing Your Essence or Spirit

I recently sat down with a dear friend to discuss our hectic lives. She was describing her relationship and that of her husband’s. She stated that her husband’s work (he is a therapist) encompassed his being. His spirit or essence was that of being a therapist. She explained that she was quite different from her husband. Her role, her essence, …

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Encouragement: The Most Important Life Skill

Clients typically ask if there are small changes that they can make that can create an immediate difference in the relationships with their spouses, children, or co-workers. Professionally, I believe that there are three life skills that are inherent in making life more meaningful. The number one life skill that will immediately make a change in your relationships is the …

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The Three Ps: Power, Patience & Persistence

As I work with families, I continue to be amazed at how often children control what occurs in the family. It’s as if the roles have shifted and the child will tell his or her parents what the ground rules will be. Sometimes this is done verbally, when a teen tells his parents, “I am not going to get off …

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Restructuring Your Position

I had a young couple who came to see me for marital counseling. The husband owned his own company and the wife had a Masters Degree in business, but had chosen to stay home and raise their two sons. The couple wanted help with reviving their marriage because there seemed to be too much emotional separateness. In actuality, the husband …

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Divorce

Divorce is ugly—no matter what the circumstances. Children are the greatest causalities of divorce. Typically, they have little choice when it comes to the aftermath. You have the power to diminish the pain for yourself, but it is even more important to diminish your child’s pain. I have seen the trauma divorce causes children. Therefore, I have high expectations for …

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The Lost Child

Do you have a child who just don’t turn out the way you had hoped? Does your child fail to accomplish the goals that you know he or she is capable of, and for the life of you, you just can’t figure out where you went wrong? Most likely you have examined your life and you know you weren’t perfect, …

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Strategies of Parenting

When providing therapy it is common to see patterns, especially within families. More and more, I am seeing two types of kids in my practice. There are kids who make mistakes, experience natural and logical consequences of their actions, and make better choices. Those kids are easy to deal with from a parenting standpoint, because they seem to learn from …

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Your Investment as a Parent

Parents have the awesome responsibility of teaching values and personal life skills to their children. Instilling the right values in your child comes from three daily investments: • Role modeling. • Family time • Good communication. Role Modeling: As a parent it is your job to model healthy behavior. Children learn what they live. You are the best teacher for …

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The Love Avoident Personality

Are you in love with a person who is love avoidant? It is not unusual to work with clients who report that there is a chronic distance in their relationship, which leaves them feeling empty, angry and hopeless about their marriage. Upon investigation, it appears that the client reporting the concern was initially “swept away” by the person. They admit …

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Parenting: Doing Less

It is difficult to raise a family in today’s society. There is so much emphasis in providing the right opportunities and affording the right things. It can be mind-boggling to know when you might be doing too much for your child. You are doing too much if: • You can’t afford the activities your child is involved in. • You …

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