Creating Positive Thought
People take their minds for granted. They don’t see it as a resource. Your perception of your life is based on how you feel and what you think. You have the power to move yourself in any direction when it comes to your perceptions. The world is your canvas and you get to decide the interpretation of your own painting.
Are you a positive person? Do you look at the glass as half empty or half full? Do you assess a situation and automatically find the good in it? Or, do you protect yourself by looking at the negatives so it won’t catch you off-guard?
All people have dialogues with themselves. It is your choice whether you are kind and gentle with your life circumstance. Internal dialogue has a powerful impact on your mental health and your self-perception. Many people critique their life as being hard and unfair. This type of negative self-talk can be a self-fulfilling prophecy because if you believe your life is hard, it will become self-defeating. You will project this energy and life will be more difficult.
The exciting thing is that we have multiple opportunities to restructure how we think, whether it is about ourselves or a situation.
If you tend to be negative, fear the worst, or see things in a negative light, you will have to retrain yourself to look at life differently. It requires diligence to create real change. Cognitive behavioral theorists find that this is the number one way to create good self-esteem, healthier moods, and a realistic perception of life’s circumstance.
Here’s how it works: It’s autumn and all of the leaves have fallen. A couple spends approximately six hours working on their yard. The wife says to her spouse, “We have really gotten a lot accomplished today.” She focuses on the action. The husband assesses that the yard will take at least another six- to eight hours of work, so he replies, “We haven’t even made a dent in it yet.” The wife says, “Well, we filled up 30 bags, and I think that’s great.” The husband says, “We have at least 60 more bags to go.”
Who do you think most enjoys doing the work? Who is more appreciative of the actual experience of raking leaves? If we could interview the wife and the husband, we would find that the wife actually appreciated the sunny, chilly day and the fitness involved in the rigorous work. She was able to see the progress being made. The husband, on the other hand, is on a mission to complete the task; therefore he is overwhelmed by the work and that’s all he can think about—the work that is left undone.
The answer is that although raking leaves is a tedious chore, the wife is able to enjoy the experience despite the fact that they did not get their task accomplished the first day. It’s the age-old euphemism that it’s not the destination, but the journey that matters. The wife is more likely to see the progress being made.
Do you see yourself in the wife, or in the husband? Regardless of who you are connected to in this illustration, it is important that you realize that you create your own journey. The next time you find yourself using negative self-talk, imagine a red stop sign and re-think your thoughts. This means that you will need to give yourself credit for the positives in any situation and notice them to the fullest. As you do, enjoy the journey.